Please, Don't Beat Yourself Up

We are only human.

We make many mistakes, and sometimes we think we seem to only continue to do so... You may feel like such a failure because of it, maybe even stupid, etc; Many negative thoughts produced from even more negative things from our past and/or other situations in our lives.

But we can't let that continuously hold power over us. We all do things we may regret, and we all have our reasons for doing the things we do. What matters is, if you want to change to a different way, or want to change in general... Do it. Take the first step, and you're already on your way. Many people hold grudges, and sometimes forgiveness and redemption seem impossible or isn't shown, etc. But you have to keep living your (key word, YOUR) life if you want to reach that change, and going through all the hardships throughout the heartache just makes you even stronger. You can get the chance(s) to learn and grow even more. People who truly care and want to help won't throw judgement or blame, they'll do their best for you. Just like you're trying to do your best. You can do it. You aren't a "monster," or whatever people say, want you to believe, or that you may even believe/say/think (about) yourself. We have to stop putting back the hatred that we so fight against. Be better, not bitter. It destroys more than it protects. We may feel safer, but the outcome usually just repeats itself, and you know how the story usually goes. I understand though, I used to hate a LOT of hatred in my heart... And no, you aren't a "bad person" if you do. The point is to do what is best for yourself, which is of course different from person to person. You know yourself the most in ways that most others cannot. Lead the life you want to live. I see so many people put themselves down, are self-deprecating, not giving themselves or others the credit they deserve, taking out their suffering on others because that's all they know to do sometimes... I could go on and on. Most of this comes from lack of understanding. Understanding of yourself, mostly. Most people are afraid to get to know even the deepest parts of themselves because they're usually afraid and/or do not know how... And fear itself comes from a lack of understanding. Many negative emotions stem from those few factors. Again though, it's never too late to turn it all around. It's ok to be afraid too... Just try to believe much more in yourself and life in general. Take that fearful energy, any energy you have pent up inside and use it to your benefit and advantage, in HEALTHY ways. You WILL see the results of your efforts. And there's no rush, be patient with yourself and everything else going on. It won't all just *snap* become perfect all of a sudden. That's very unrealistic... Also, try not to let toxic outlets seep into your mind to make you believe something that is not true and never will be. Like if someone, for example, says "you'll never amount to anything..." Just realize why they may be saying it (their own insecurity, etc); Therefore understanding their action(s), but also realizing the same action(s) aren't automatically fact just because they say so (and how you may possibly hear it a lot from your surroundings, among other things, which makes you conditioned to want to believe it's true anyway). They're only a small, SMALL percentage of the population. Their words have no true power overall. Yes, they can hurt and cause an impact in many, many forms, but you can overcome that hatred and also understand the truth that their words are just produced from their own lack of understanding. So how can it be 100% truth? It isn't. (Some people, similar to how I said earlier about using something ((like the situation I used as an example)) to your benefit and advantage, use their understanding to even make peace... Which can better a situation, yes, but I realize that isn't practical for all people, and not everyone has that option or don't feel comfortable with that anyway, etc. It's all absolutely ok; Some people feel better going down that path and others don't. Just keep doing what you feel is right, and what will produce the best outcome. No matter what occurs, you'll still learn somewhere down the line, and that's what matters. Whether sooner or later, progress is progress.) Hopefully one day they'll learn not to act that way, but meanwhile, you can just keep learning more about and loving yourself. Understanding over time that yes, you have flaws, but not what to the extent that some individuals may portray you as. You aren't some horrible being. You didn't ask for any of the pain you receive... You just want to live and be happy like everyone else.

You can achieve it.

We have to try and stop many things from getting a grip on us, shaking us to our core, and ultimately holding us back in some other form or way... Once you find your OWN way and are ever faced with more of what you fought so hard to get away from, shut it down. Do whatever it takes to keep it as far away as you can, and continue to go and get what you sought for after so long. Beating ourselves up and everything just makes everything even worse, so why not try and make it better... Getting much more improving results over time. It's hard, most of life is, but we can do it. We aren't ever a lost cause. Sadly, many people don't learn that fact in time and are at rest now, but we can at least spread what we know and help those we can so it's not all in vain. As long as there's at least one person on Earth doing that, hope is not lost.

It all comes down to ourselves and whether we want to continue to fight or stay down... Because in the end, those are the two key options we have to choose from, and sometimes we continue to battle with them (even AFTER choosing sometimes). The direction of our lives all plays out once we make the decision. For the option of truly giving up, once that's really achieved (suicide), there's no going back... It's sad some have had to resort to that, but let's please not forget what I've said here today.

Just overall try to be kinder to yourself in general... Something else that is an important piece of information, also try to follow the same advice you'd give to someone you truly care for. Many times we don't treat ourselves as well... And why should you be any less valid? You can't only be at 50% when trying to give someone 100%

It goes both ways, friends.

Take care of yourselves too, just as much; With the ones you love. Otherwise, you won't even be able to do as much as what is wanted by your own self, and the results will follow suit. You may feel hopeless, and like you're getting nowhere for example. Just like for safety on a plane, first example I could think of... You have to put on your own mask in order to be able to continue to move on and possibly help someone else out. If you're gone, what then, right...?

And I won't stop saying this... I hope you can believe it too at some point...

You deserve it.

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To be truly happy.

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- 4:40 PM

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